Think of it as children born to people who aren't married, not "single mothers". People tend to assume that if a couple isn't together, there's no father, and that's not the case. I can see that for working professionals who don't have time to have a marriage, but still want kids. But my post was more about the college aged single moms out there, the whole grip load of them nowadays.
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It's not hard to not get pregnant these days with all these advancements in science and tech. Not in the US! I think being taught about birth control only has relevance if people don't want a child. It's to prevent unwanted pregnancies. I don't know if people are having more kids accidentally,but it wouldn't surprise me if it's at least partly intentional - there's a growing awareness that, for females in our current culture and environment, age 25 and up is an awful time to have a child because of the sometimes permanent cost to career and income, etc.
You also see a lot of women freezing their eggs for this reason. People have always done that though, which doesn't explain the increase claimed in the above post. I'd be interested to see statistics on location and education, as well as past marriage history relative to the rate of single mothers.
It could be that more people are getting married, having kids, then divorcing, or it could be linked to education, religion, or something completely different.
2. DON’T introduce your date/boyfriend to your kids until you’re certain it has real potential.
Yeah, it's more complicated than "getting drunk and not using condoms". If you google it, there are some interesting articles about it. I feel like those types of articles tend to exaggerate statistics and our very sexist beliefs about parenthood come into play when reading them. But still, interesting stuff. Same reason so many kids in the US are fat.
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Their parents don't care, and don't teach them anything. Then you have abstinence-only education, which is morons teaching morons.
From what I seen and heard it is awful and the percentage of them succeeding is very small overall. People on this thread made some great points. One more point to add that people forget is that education plays a huge role. An educated young single parent will have a better chance of finding a partner than a poor educated young single partner. Preferably I avoid single young mother's because of how naive and irresponsible they came across.
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If I find out you are a single mother I learn it is best to avoid such baggage. I know there exist exceptions, and sometimes people really do grow up and change, but it's definitely a sign of poor judgement. Poor mate selection and vetting, ignoring of every flag and sign for years, poor decision making, bad personality and low self-confidence, and lack of consequence foresight. Are there single moms because their husbands suddenly turned into complete dicks and cheated on them?
About as many as there are fat people due to legitimate medical conditions the rest just got used to eating too much. Incidentally, the only young-ish single parents due to death I know are both men widowers. The two single mothers I know I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole, and their kids are brats to boot, so I'd rather stab myself in the eye with a fork than have to deal with them daily. It's a clear sign of poor judgement.
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The ONLY exception is if she was married and the husband did something crazy like cheat, steal, rape, etc. But these chicks out here getting drunk, taking E, fucking some random dude she met at a rave, and then getting pregnant, or leaving a good dude for some trash who can only give her one night of fun, which ends in her getting pregnant. NO sympathy should be given to these types of women. That is another correlation to having a poor education. Poor judgement is a result of a poor education. Man those generalizations are extreme although you can find some actual cases where they might be true.
No one is talking about giving them sympathy or pity. I especially don't sympathize single mothers because they are moms. It depends on how they got there. Overall that isn't the point of the main discussion. Not all single mothers are bad or awful, but from the one's I met personally they came across as very questionable or undesirable. I bet there are some great single mothers who are superb in many ways. Most of those mothers are probably well-educated.
I am a bit selfish and I don't want to be responsible for someone else's child. It is just more stress added onto me. People can disagree with me. The only reaosn ive been dating this single mom, is because she comes from a good family, she's smarter than me, and makes more money than me. It's fine, provided you understand up front you are not the most important thing in her life, and that time alone will be a rare and precious thing.
If you can't handle that, move on. My advice as a single mother is to not assume that a woman is looking for a "dad" for her kids. My kid has a dad, I'm looking for a partner that can coexist with my child without being a jerk to him, not try to replace the father role. Also her kid s are her favorite people. If you can't be nice to kids, just don't even go there.
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I don't introduce men to my child unless it's super serious i. My son already has a father who actually has the custody and other male figures in his life his grandpa and step-grandpa, my brothers, some cousins and some male friends. My ideal man would probably be a parent to young adults, not to a pack of dogs or cats. Check back in 5 or 6 years. Good luck finding a woman with out at least one child, as well as not having any yourself. Just date someone younger. They might be insufferable for the first while, but they will grow out of that, and they can function normally until they do.
Younger, cuter, less fat on average, less baggage, less likely to have a kid. Sounds like a deal to me; I can deal with some residual angst and immaturity for that. That's a clinical way to view it, but not wrong unfortunately, having money is a prime component to getting honey. Was very open to anything as most guys would hit and quit when they found out about the little roo. Really explored my sexuality with her and we were always honest and open until the very end when she had found what she was looking for and I found out that I was just filling time for her.
All of those things attained on my own merits. The issue is the ish demographic of young single mothers who sleep with a bunch of men, eventually get pregnant, and than go around complaining of "where are all the good men" and go on dating sites, on which they ALWAYS post "looking for something serious, no hook-ups". Well you should have thought of that before you got knocked up with some douches kid. Not terrible but I spent a lot of time living the life of a step parent.
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One of the things I hated most was if a friend called me at Her on the other hand, couldn't do things like that without having something pre-planned. It was a struggle between I don't have a child so I can do those things and I don't want to do them without her but she can't go so I had to pick my poison. Same with trips and dates and etc Being spontaneous and carefree is a way of life for me but not so much for her.
If I got invited on a trip all I need to do is arrange my work schedule and I'm good to go. On the other hand, she needs plenty of time to arrange a trip to pay for tickets for the kid and make sure there were adequate places to sleep and eat. Nothing bad but I went from being care free to having to make artificially responsible decisions. It wasn't terrible but I hated having to always decide if I would be selfish because I didn't have any kids or stay with her so that she wouldn't be lonely.